For many men in my area, they have the added advantage of being bisexual.
I say advantage because they have all the benefits of passing as straight and then when it is time to be in any form of a relationship with a person of the same gender, in my extensive experience they have secret relationships with members or a member of a discourse community of their preference who has low self esteem and consequently low standards .
This in effect usually causes the bisexual man to take advantage of the situation and not treat his partner like a partner but as a secret lover, setting the stage for a lifetime of emotional mistreatment and abuse to the other partner.
My issue is not with men or women who are bisexual, my issue is with men and women who take advantage of other people in relationships, specifically culturally considered "non-traditional" relationships or straight.
from what i've seen the cultural standard in the community in this area is to not be who you are and when the opportunity comes to find a partner to not treat them like a partner but like a sexual plaything, which although in some cases may appeal to me, does not fit my current personal standard.
Sex is sex and meant to feel good and all that wonderful jazz, but the politics and social standing tied in with how it is practiced personally doesn't sit well with me.
I have never been comfortable with being subservient to anything, i am happy to be friend, or co worker or even teammate but to be treated less than, in any fashion really grinds my gears. So i find when in the face of these situations i'm at a loss. I of course want to engage sexually with who i'm attracted to, but i am extremely unwilling to practice the art of becoming and through repeated practice believing myself to be less.
I wonder if other members of the world have experienced this and how they overcame it, even when friends and loved ones practiced the behavior.
I wonder.
I say advantage because they have all the benefits of passing as straight and then when it is time to be in any form of a relationship with a person of the same gender, in my extensive experience they have secret relationships with members or a member of a discourse community of their preference who has low self esteem and consequently low standards .
This in effect usually causes the bisexual man to take advantage of the situation and not treat his partner like a partner but as a secret lover, setting the stage for a lifetime of emotional mistreatment and abuse to the other partner.
My issue is not with men or women who are bisexual, my issue is with men and women who take advantage of other people in relationships, specifically culturally considered "non-traditional" relationships or straight.
from what i've seen the cultural standard in the community in this area is to not be who you are and when the opportunity comes to find a partner to not treat them like a partner but like a sexual plaything, which although in some cases may appeal to me, does not fit my current personal standard.
Sex is sex and meant to feel good and all that wonderful jazz, but the politics and social standing tied in with how it is practiced personally doesn't sit well with me.
I have never been comfortable with being subservient to anything, i am happy to be friend, or co worker or even teammate but to be treated less than, in any fashion really grinds my gears. So i find when in the face of these situations i'm at a loss. I of course want to engage sexually with who i'm attracted to, but i am extremely unwilling to practice the art of becoming and through repeated practice believing myself to be less.
I wonder if other members of the world have experienced this and how they overcame it, even when friends and loved ones practiced the behavior.
I wonder.
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